Arsonists & Gardeners, Gatekeepers & Gate Changers
Have you ever received negative (or "developmental") feedback that "killed your soul"?
If you answered "yes" to the question above, possibly one of two things happened (and maybe both). First, you probably put considerable effort into the project or process for which you received feedback. Negative feedback (I am avoiding the euphemistic word "developmental" on purpose) stings more when we feel it is undeserved. Second, the person providing the feedback focused only or mostly on the problem areas. The person may also have been angry or treated you poorly.
In this brief video, I first compare a person who cannot provide effective feedback to an arsonist who burns everything on sight. A good feedback provider is like a gardener who focuses on the beautiful plants without ignoring the weeds.
Next, I discuss selection processes. I wonder in what situations people in charge of selection decisions should be gatekeepers. Gatekeepers are in charge of their "gates" and only allow in people who hold the "perfect key." Instead, organizations might profit from "gate changers" - professionals who change the rules. These leaders transform the gate to accept those with different talents, cultures, personalities, or even professional background.
Think about your own experiences:
Dr. Cris Wildermuth
Dr. Cris Wildermuth is Linked:HR's Community Leader and an Associate Professor at Drake University, where she directs the Master of Science in Leadership Development. You may find out more about Dr. Wildermuth's leadership development, ethics, and intercultural development consulting practice at THIS PAGE.